Verbal Apologies vs. Changed Behavior
If you have become a broken record to a child you birthed then having them say “sorry!”, you should already know that someone saying “sorry“ or “I apologize“ means diddly SQUAT!!! 🤣
For some odd reason, we accept those two words from grown adults, for the same offense committed multiple times. Why!???
My logic is this...If you’re old enough to acknowledge that an apology has to be given, then you’re old enough to change the behavior which led to you having to issue said apology.
I don’t even want to focus on the person who is apologizing at this point. I want to shift my questions and energy to those of us who are constantly forgiving folks who are constantly apologizing for committing the same offense? Why is it so hard for us to see that those people are showing us who they truly are, and how many fucks they could give about us and our feelings?
" Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Fool me three times, shame on both of us.” ~Stephen King~
At some point, you must...
Realize that you're worth more than being someone's pincushion, punching bag, or crash test dummy.
Understand that some people are incapable of taking full accountability for their actions or acknowledging that they've done anything wrong, for changed behavior to even take place.
You should NEVER...EVER EVER, feel like you need to entertain someone after they showed their complete and utter ass for you to kiss. Forgiveness is for you and not the other person. The reason you forgive and never forget is because you need to be reminded that, That person is no longer worth your time or energy. A.K.A. "Ditch Da B**ch"!👀
If you're reading this, please walk to the nearest mirror, look at your reflection and say, "I am too fly to be fucked over, and to Dope to be duped. Anyone that is going to disregard who I am as a child of God with a forgiving spirit, doesn't deserve any parts of me". Then grab your phone, and go on a blocking spree! When you're done clearing the clutter and removing the demons out of your life, Step back, watch God work and let the church say,"Amen!"🙌🏾
In summation...STOP ALLOWING PEOPLE TO INSULT YOUR INTELLIGENCE AND TAKE YOUR KINDNESS FOR WEAKNESS. Folks will show you, better than they can tell you. Believe them after the first offense!
Till next time, Remember...
”Change Your Habits = Change Your Life